After yesterday’s post, I returned to my mom’s apartment to give her the bedtime meds. She couldn’t remember where she’d put them—even though we decided together earlier in the day where they should go. One of the meds, (the all-important zyprexa) can’t be opened until right before it’s taken. She wasn’t able to pop the pill out of the blister pack. It disintegrated into a crumbly yellow mess. Mom became agitated and said she couldn’t do it because I was watching over her so closely.
Later, I was watching Numb3ers, my Friday night network-TV guilty pleasure. She said something completely irrational about the TV needing to be off before she goes to bed. Whatever.
She accused me of wanting her to go back to the hospital so that I could go home. I said that I thought she should go back to the hospital because she needed time to make the transition from the geodon to the zyprexa. I pointed out that she couldn’t remember where she put her medication. She said, “You’re right. Just give me 24 hours.”
First thing this morning:
Mom: Where are the keys?
Me: They are around your neck. (She keeps her keys on a lanyard—carry over from teaching days.)
Me: They are hanging around your neck.
Mom: Oh, I guess I really am a mental patient. Maybe I need to go to the hospital for two days.
A few minutes later—
Me: I know you’re argumentative and you can’t help it. That’s why we’re not going to talk too much today.
She is wearing the green corduroy dress that she wears on Thanksgiving Day, with a flowered skirt underneath that and a pair of long pants underneath that.
I’m staying one more day. My brother will spend Sunday night here. If I’m not home tomorrow, send a posse.
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UPDATE: I just packed. I think I’m too fried to stay.
UPDATE 2 (16 Nov 08, 9 am): I am home, and I am in bed. I called my mom last night and she gave me a load of BS about taking her meds. Whatever.
5 thoughts on “Talking to Crazy”
Mania is a hard disease to live with, whether it is you or a loved one who has it. Try not to beat yourself up for not being perfect in being able to help your mom—no matter how great you are, the disease will find a way around your plans. Really. I liken it to teaching a child to walk—you expect they’ll fall *this* way, so you reach out to catch them, only they fall the other way. So next time, you reach that way and they fall another way. Mania is the same. She’ll fall another direction you didn’t plan on. And that is tough.
Go home, get some sleep. Know that you have done the best you can, the best your mother, in her current condition and disease will allow.
Hang in there.
What Kaleb and Kim said.
I’ve caught up, read the posts and comments from the last couple of days. If you’re not home soon I will be part of the posse, and I know who I’m gonna get to come with me.
Hope you’re back home now and still in bed.
just stumbled in to your blog on a search… my brother sounds exactly like all this. i can totally empathize with the complete exhaustion at trying to deal with a manic relative, who can’t keep things straight and is more or less constantly agitated. and the battle over meds…. and the battle over sleep… everything sounds so darn familiar!
i will totally be your posse if you will be mine!!